Comments for Bridgeofideas's Weblog http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com Just another WordPress.com weblog Wed, 20 Aug 2008 17:26:01 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Being Open Without Being Dishonest by Stephanie Jo Kent http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/2008/08/20/being-open-without-being-dishonest/#comment-14 Stephanie Jo Kent Wed, 20 Aug 2008 17:26:01 +0000 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/?p=14#comment-14 Very interesting - and as I read this I recall your first comment to the whole class (I think i a discussion thread) in which you said you'd tell us all about your blog identity, "bridge of ideas." :-) We did not delve into the topic of dishonesty except for a brief touch near the end on deception, violence and betrayal. There is also a literature and arguments that actually argue FOR dishonesty - for actually making things up. I'm not very familiar with those theories, and definitely do not know the ins-and-outs of arguments for and against. But I have been struck (not only here, by other students' comments too), as I was with the textbook's presentation of how to express emotion, that there is a very strong 'party line' being drawn about what is right/wrong regarding honesty. Please don't misinterpret me, I am a firm believer in being honest as an essential element of a core integrity of being. I would simply say that "honesty" - just like "lying" - is a mutually constructed understanding about communication. In other words, being dis/honest is a label for a behavior that might appear differently at different times depending on many factors. Very interesting – and as I read this I recall your first comment to the whole class (I think i a discussion thread) in which you said you’d tell us all about your blog identity, “bridge of ideas.” :-)

We did not delve into the topic of dishonesty except for a brief touch near the end on deception, violence and betrayal. There is also a literature and arguments that actually argue FOR dishonesty – for actually making things up. I’m not very familiar with those theories, and definitely do not know the ins-and-outs of arguments for and against. But I have been struck (not only here, by other students’ comments too), as I was with the textbook’s presentation of how to express emotion, that there is a very strong ‘party line’ being drawn about what is right/wrong regarding honesty.

Please don’t misinterpret me, I am a firm believer in being honest as an essential element of a core integrity of being. I would simply say that “honesty” – just like “lying” – is a mutually constructed understanding about communication. In other words, being dis/honest is a label for a behavior that might appear differently at different times depending on many factors.

]]> Comment on Openness by President Makalele http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/2008/08/16/openness/#comment-13 President Makalele Wed, 20 Aug 2008 15:01:01 +0000 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/?p=11#comment-13 Coordinated Management of Meaning is the communication theory that I found to best explain how you commented on our presentation because you stayed within the realm of discussing the presentation. There was already a “social reality” created here and within it you have provided what is considered normal communication within the episode of the presentation at hand. Each comment was very well managed to be sure to apply to the assignment without getting away from the subject of openness discussed in the presentation. <a href="http://jimigarcia27.wordpress.com/2008/08/17/openness-opens-the-doors-to-ipc/#comment-9" rel="nofollow">Delivermesummer</a>, <a href="http://jimigarcia27.wordpress.com/2008/08/17/openness-opens-the-doors-to-ipc/#comment-15" rel="nofollow">outerbodyboi</a> and <a href="http://sports08.wordpress.com/2008/08/17/openness-opens-the-doors-to-ipc/#comment-11" rel="nofollow">saboy</a> used Jimigarcia’s example regarding summer22 being open to better convey to the class how she felt in order to better establish identity within the class. All of you picked out the same example so it must have been a good one! The example showed the self disclosure of summer22 and how they really felt which lead to summer displaying a definition of self to the rest of the class through openness. <a href="http://swabbies24.wordpress.com/2008/08/18/openness-opens-the-doors-to-ipc-team-2/#comment-12" rel="nofollow">Masr27</a> commented about how openness needs to be authentic because fake openness can be sensed by a lot of people. All of the comments are within the grasp of the “normal communication” expected in this particular setting. They describe how openness and self disclosure can establish meaning at the level that is needed to determine which regulatory rules we will follow to stay within that “normal communication” bubble that was established. Coordinated Management of Meaning is the communication theory that I found to best explain how you commented on our presentation because you stayed within the realm of discussing the presentation. There was already a “social reality” created here and within it you have provided what is considered normal communication within the episode of the presentation at hand. Each comment was very well managed to be sure to apply to the assignment without getting away from the subject of openness discussed in the presentation. Delivermesummer, outerbodyboi and saboy used Jimigarcia’s example regarding summer22 being open to better convey to the class how she felt in order to better establish identity within the class. All of you picked out the same example so it must have been a good one! The example showed the self disclosure of summer22 and how they really felt which lead to summer displaying a definition of self to the rest of the class through openness. Masr27 commented about how openness needs to be authentic because fake openness can be sensed by a lot of people. All of the comments are within the grasp of the “normal communication” expected in this particular setting. They describe how openness and self disclosure can establish meaning at the level that is needed to determine which regulatory rules we will follow to stay within that “normal communication” bubble that was established.

]]> Comment on Openness by Sports08 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/2008/08/16/openness/#comment-12 Sports08 Wed, 20 Aug 2008 01:12:06 +0000 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/?p=11#comment-12 I feel that the of all the theories we read about in Stephanie’s lecture: "Competing Theories of Interpersonal Communication" – adding to a conversation is most prevalent in our class. Stephanie says that: “[…] displaying different points-of-view, as well as critique the case.” This is an example of ‘adding to a conversation.’ Many examples of ‘adding to a conversation’ are found especially with the examples of our work and replies through out our group presentation. Memphisburns writes : “Within the first few minutes of reading the project I had a good perspective of how much openness was used as communication enhancer with all of us.” This is an example of adding to a conversation, Memphis is critiquing our work, and fortunately for us Memphis proves that we met our goal. Memphis tells us that they could instantly witness our openness in all of our work. This was our goal as a group was to show how open each person we used in our examples was. Saboy 82 says: “find it very fitting how all these concepts about interpersonal communication compliment each other, specifically “openness” and “fierce” conversations.” Then Saboy goes on to explain a concept that we did not spend much time touching on in our presentation: “fierce” conversations- a theory that Susan Scott explains. This is an example of adding to the conversation, as Stephanie mentions in her lecture “the range of perspectives necessary to provoke new thinking is present.” Saboy gives us a new perspective and a new theory as a way to look at our presentation. My favorite quote from all of the responses to our presentation comes from Gym411: “Being open to the openness of others deals with a person’s ability to ‘open up themselves as well as being able to being open to opposing ways of thinking.’” The reason I enjoy this comment so much is because I feel that this is the best way to add to a conversation is to keep the conversation ‘open’ by having an ‘open-mind’ to different ways of thinking. Gym says that we were able to be open to opposing ways of thinking, this is a great compliment to get in an interpersonal communication course. To keep a conversation openness is essential, hence why we as a group found openness to be such a good topic. Adding to a conversation is a skill, one that is necessary for a successful conversation. In order to keep a conversation ‘flowing’ both people involved should have an understanding of different ways of adding their part to a conversation. I feel that the of all the theories we read about in Stephanie’s lecture: “Competing Theories of Interpersonal Communication” – adding to a conversation is most prevalent in our class. Stephanie says that: “[…] displaying different points-of-view, as well as critique the case.” This is an example of ‘adding to a conversation.’ Many examples of ‘adding to a conversation’ are found especially with the examples of our work and replies through out our group presentation. Memphisburns writes : “Within the first few minutes of reading the project I had a good perspective of how much openness was used as communication enhancer with all of us.” This is an example of adding to a conversation, Memphis is critiquing our work, and fortunately for us Memphis proves that we met our goal. Memphis tells us that they could instantly witness our openness in all of our work. This was our goal as a group was to show how open each person we used in our examples was.
Saboy 82 says: “find it very fitting how all these concepts about interpersonal communication compliment each other, specifically “openness” and “fierce” conversations.” Then Saboy goes on to explain a concept that we did not spend much time touching on in our presentation: “fierce” conversations- a theory that Susan Scott explains. This is an example of adding to the conversation, as Stephanie mentions in her lecture “the range of perspectives necessary to provoke new thinking is present.” Saboy gives us a new perspective and a new theory as a way to look at our presentation.
My favorite quote from all of the responses to our presentation comes from Gym411: “Being open to the openness of others deals with a person’s ability to ‘open up themselves as well as being able to being open to opposing ways of thinking.’” The reason I enjoy this comment so much is because I feel that this is the best way to add to a conversation is to keep the conversation ‘open’ by having an ‘open-mind’ to different ways of thinking. Gym says that we were able to be open to opposing ways of thinking, this is a great compliment to get in an interpersonal communication course. To keep a conversation openness is essential, hence why we as a group found openness to be such a good topic. Adding to a conversation is a skill, one that is necessary for a successful conversation. In order to keep a conversation ‘flowing’ both people involved should have an understanding of different ways of adding their part to a conversation.

]]> Comment on Openness by jimigarcia27 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/2008/08/16/openness/#comment-11 jimigarcia27 Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:56:39 +0000 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/?p=11#comment-11 Adding to a conversation is the theory that I feel best describes the responses I received about the presentation my group put on. In Stephanie’s lecture she explains what students did for this project and provides quotes from their blogs as well. She says, “With respect to laying a foundation for further dialogue, students’ respond by summarizing and reflecting on the specific example of the Hawaiian Kingdom’s case to the World Court, displaying different points-of-view, as well as critique the case…” This is similar to how students responded to my specific example of openness. The first commenter on my blogpost was Delivermesummer, they did a good job at “adding to the conversation”. Not only do they summarize my argument but they also went as far as adding their own opinions to my argument. They quote, “I would like to add to this argument, stating that Summer22’s disclosure of her feelings helped to formulate her “self” – in the eye’s of her classmates, Summer22 was expressing her true feelings, conveying honesty and encouraging others to participate.” I found this as a true representation of adding to the conversation. The second commenter is outerbodyboi who also added to the conversation by offering up some of their own points. They quote, “People aren’t always comfortable explaining how they feel on a given topic because they fear they will be ridiculed.” Not only is this sharing their own opinion but it also reminds me a lot about openness and explains why some people aren’t as open. The third commenter is ooloveshoo who like the others offers up some good opinions with some helpful hints on conversation. They say, “I think having open-minded is important in any conversations, and the process of building relationship can be affected by it. The more you open to your listeners, there are better chance for you to create close relationship with them.” The final commenter is Commsyr09 who chose what they found most important and used that to add to the conversation. They say, “Specifically, what stood out to me was his self-disclosure on his learning disability. I think it is not only brave but also admirable to be able to be open on a topic that is not only personal but can often times be controversial.” Adding to a conversation is the theory that I feel best describes the responses I received about the presentation my group put on. In Stephanie’s lecture she explains what students did for this project and provides quotes from their blogs as well. She says, “With respect to laying a foundation for further dialogue, students’ respond by summarizing and reflecting on the specific example of the Hawaiian Kingdom’s case to the World Court, displaying different points-of-view, as well as critique the case…” This is similar to how students responded to my specific example of openness. The first commenter on my blogpost was Delivermesummer, they did a good job at “adding to the conversation”. Not only do they summarize my argument but they also went as far as adding their own opinions to my argument. They quote, “I would like to add to this argument, stating that Summer22’s disclosure of her feelings helped to formulate her “self” – in the eye’s of her classmates, Summer22 was expressing her true feelings, conveying honesty and encouraging others to participate.” I found this as a true representation of adding to the conversation. The second commenter is outerbodyboi who also added to the conversation by offering up some of their own points. They quote,
“People aren’t always comfortable explaining how they feel on a given topic because they fear they will be ridiculed.” Not only is this sharing their own opinion but it also reminds me a lot about openness and explains why some people aren’t as open. The third commenter is ooloveshoo who like the others offers up some good opinions with some helpful hints on conversation. They say, “I think having open-minded is important in any conversations, and the process of building relationship can be affected by it. The more you open to your listeners, there are better chance for you to create close relationship with them.” The final commenter is Commsyr09 who chose what they found most important and used that to add to the conversation. They say, “Specifically, what stood out to me was his self-disclosure on his learning disability. I think it is not only brave but also admirable to be able to be open on a topic that is not only personal but can often times be controversial.”

]]> Comment on “Dream Boat” by Singer12 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/2008/07/16/dream-boat/#comment-8 Singer12 Sat, 26 Jul 2008 03:56:29 +0000 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/?p=3#comment-8 Hello Bridgeofideas, Wow! Congratulations on the boat, it all sounds so wonderful. I can relate to your story, however from a different lense. I, as a child, was put on a tube, attached to my family’s motorboat, along with my brother. My parents loved to tow us around the lake during the summers, it was those fun times that we shared our fondest family memories. I think it will be fantastic for your and your husband, after some time, to finally have the luxury of your very own, private, luxury boat. You two both deserve, and will greatly enjoy the excitement of the water, with the calmness and tranquilty of privacy and comfort. Hello Bridgeofideas,
Wow! Congratulations on the boat, it all sounds so wonderful.
I can relate to your story, however from a different lense. I, as a child, was put on a tube, attached to my family’s motorboat, along with my brother. My parents loved to tow us around the lake during the summers, it was those fun times that we shared our fondest family memories.
I think it will be fantastic for your and your husband, after some time, to finally have the luxury of your very own, private, luxury boat. You two both deserve, and will greatly enjoy the excitement of the water, with the calmness and tranquilty of privacy and comfort.

]]> Comment on Hello world! by commsyr09 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/2008/07/15/hello-world/#comment-7 commsyr09 Sat, 26 Jul 2008 03:45:19 +0000 #comment-7 Hi Bridgeofideas! Wow, your new boat sounds amazing. Congrats! I was unable to understand whether you and your husband have moved from your home into the boat or if the boat's primary usage would be for pleasure? From what I recall, the only boat I have been on with sleeping quarters is a cruise ship! What are the sleeping quarters like on your boat? Although I would imagine them to be sort of uncomfortable, from your post it seems as though they are just the opposite. I can tell you know a lot about boating and have been doing it for a while. When and how did you get into boating? What kind of boat is this new one? I too, love boating, I don't know much about it nor do I get the chance to go on boats too frequently but when I do the thrill of being in the water, is indescribable! I am sure you can relate! Hi Bridgeofideas!

Wow, your new boat sounds amazing. Congrats! I was unable to understand whether you and your husband have moved from your home into the boat or if the boat’s primary usage would be for pleasure? From what I recall, the only boat I have been on with sleeping quarters is a cruise ship! What are the sleeping quarters like on your boat? Although I would imagine them to be sort of uncomfortable, from your post it seems as though they are just the opposite. I can tell you know a lot about boating and have been doing it for a while. When and how did you get into boating? What kind of boat is this new one? I too, love boating, I don’t know much about it nor do I get the chance to go on boats too frequently but when I do the thrill of being in the water, is indescribable! I am sure you can relate!

]]> Comment on “Dream Boat” by ShinyGinger http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/2008/07/16/dream-boat/#comment-6 ShinyGinger Sat, 26 Jul 2008 03:20:53 +0000 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/?p=3#comment-6 Hi Bridge, First of all, congratulations on your new cabin cruiser! If you are on the east coast this summer, I hope you have been able to continue to enjoy it despite the string of severe weather! Although it sounds like a non issue, as your new Luxury Liner sounds like it can cut through storm waves as if they were pebbles on a road. Your story reminds me of my experience growing up on a small lake in New Hampshire. My family bought a motorboat when I was about 8 or 9, and I have many vivid memories of learning to waterski, picnics in the middle of the lake, evening “tootles” slowly around the lake, and being knocked senseless in an inflatable tube dragged behind the boat. My absolute favorite boat-related activity is, and has always been, reading (even with the boat moored) in the afternoon. I actually like to lay on the back, above the inboard/outboard engine. Do you prefer to sit/lay in the sun while reading, or are you able to sit in the shade in your new cabin? It must be an exhilarating feeling to be out on the open ocean! I've never experienced the feeling in a small watercraft, never mind one I have been in control of! It seems like there are so many possibilities. Are you planning any long trips up or down the sea coast? What is it like to experience spending the night in the cabin of your boat? I bet the stars are amazing from the ocean, as well as city lights along the shore! Enjoy your new BMV of the sea, and your boys' rejuvenated interest in quality boating time. -Shiny Hi Bridge,
First of all, congratulations on your new cabin cruiser! If you are on the east coast this summer, I hope you have been able to continue to enjoy it despite the string of severe weather! Although it sounds like a non issue, as your new Luxury Liner sounds like it can cut through storm waves as if they were pebbles on a road. Your story reminds me of my experience growing up on a small lake in New Hampshire. My family bought a motorboat when I was about 8 or 9, and I have many vivid memories of learning to waterski, picnics in the middle of the lake, evening “tootles” slowly around the lake, and being knocked senseless in an inflatable tube dragged behind the boat.

My absolute favorite boat-related activity is, and has always been, reading (even with the boat moored) in the afternoon. I actually like to lay on the back, above the inboard/outboard engine. Do you prefer to sit/lay in the sun while reading, or are you able to sit in the shade in your new cabin? It must be an exhilarating feeling to be out on the open ocean! I’ve never experienced the feeling in a small watercraft, never mind one I have been in control of! It seems like there are so many possibilities. Are you planning any long trips up or down the sea coast? What is it like to experience spending the night in the cabin of your boat? I bet the stars are amazing from the ocean, as well as city lights along the shore! Enjoy your new BMV of the sea, and your boys’ rejuvenated interest in quality boating time.

-Shiny

]]> Comment on “Dream Boat” by outerbodyboi http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/2008/07/16/dream-boat/#comment-5 outerbodyboi Fri, 25 Jul 2008 23:58:50 +0000 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/?p=3#comment-5 Hey Bridge of Ideas! Thanks for leaving a comment as well as reading my blog. It sounds like your having the summer of your life! It's always a good thing to have a hobby and yours seems to get you out of the house and to enjoy the beauty that surrounds us. To respond to your questions, Yes, the internship and writing of scripts is part of my major. The funny thing about the communications major is that it can lead you in many different directions. I enjoy being creative as well as being connected to the world, whatever it takes! It's funny that you say that the boat is just a bit shorter than your house. It reminds me of my aunt, who lives in a boat year round, a houseboat to be exact. What kind of fishing do you guys do? Have you taken it out in salt water yet? Anyways, I hope you really take advantage of the good times before the weather begins to turn again lol. Have fun! Hey Bridge of Ideas!
Thanks for leaving a comment as well as reading my blog. It sounds like your having the summer of your life! It’s always a good thing to have a hobby and yours seems to get you out of the house and to enjoy the beauty that surrounds us.

To respond to your questions, Yes, the internship and writing of scripts is part of my major. The funny thing about the communications major is that it can lead you in many different directions. I enjoy being creative as well as being connected to the world, whatever it takes!

It’s funny that you say that the boat is just a bit shorter than your house. It reminds me of my aunt, who lives in a boat year round, a houseboat to be exact. What kind of fishing do you guys do? Have you taken it out in salt water yet? Anyways, I hope you really take advantage of the good times before the weather begins to turn again lol. Have fun!

]]> Comment on “Dream Boat” by beaver32 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/2008/07/16/dream-boat/#comment-4 beaver32 Fri, 25 Jul 2008 18:55:19 +0000 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/?p=3#comment-4 I’m glad you got that dream boat of yours it’s sounds nice. I never really been on a boat like that before I don’t mess with the open ocean like that. I like to stay on dry land its much safer but maybe one day I will try it out. So how many children do you have ? I don’t have any children but I just recently became an uncle my brother had a baby like two weeks ago. I’m pretty excited about that my brother said right now he’s barely even getting any sleep. I want to have a child of my own but I know I’m not ready for one I want to have one once I have set job and I’m making good money. I’m glad you got that dream boat of yours it’s sounds nice. I never really been on a boat like that before I don’t mess with the open ocean like that. I like to stay on dry land its much safer but maybe one day I will try it out. So how many children do you have ? I don’t have any children but I just recently became an uncle my brother had a baby like two weeks ago. I’m pretty excited about that my brother said right now he’s barely even getting any sleep. I want to have a child of my own but I know I’m not ready for one I want to have one once I have set job and I’m making good money.

]]> Comment on “Dream Boat” by ooloveshoo http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/2008/07/16/dream-boat/#comment-3 ooloveshoo Tue, 22 Jul 2008 11:26:09 +0000 http://bridgeofideas.wordpress.com/?p=3#comment-3 Hello. I am glad that you got your dream boat!! I have never been on the boat, so I do not know what it feels like riding on it. However, I am sure it must be fun, and relaxing. I like how you and your husband share the same interest, and spend spare time together. Hopefully your sons will join back. I like the idea of doing something together as a family. As I get older, I found myself spend less time with my parents and we do not share same hobby. This ends up my family to spend less time with each others. Hopefully, I will find some hobby that could bring my family together like how you have found your own. Hello. I am glad that you got your dream boat!! I have never been on the boat, so I do not know what it feels like riding on it. However, I am sure it must be fun, and relaxing. I like how you and your husband share the same interest, and spend spare time together. Hopefully your sons will join back. I like the idea of doing something together as a family. As I get older, I found myself spend less time with my parents and we do not share same hobby. This ends up my family to spend less time with each others. Hopefully, I will find some hobby that could bring my family together like how you have found your own.

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